Where have you been?

Okay, so I haven't been as diligent about my writing as I should have been. I have lots of excuses and none of them are good. Such is life. I can only say that I will try harder.

Things are interesting. I made a huge decision since my last post and that is to change my job. It has been one of the most anxiety provoking experiences that I have had in a long time. The change was very much necessary and I can say that my mental health has improved with the change. The husbands job was also a key element in my choosing this particular job. I accepted a night time position in an emergency room as a social worker. This is not a position most people would consider, nor would anyone really jump at the chance. However, this job had a lot of elements that were an asset and considering my husband is gone much of the time for work, it doesn't have such an undesirable impact on my life.

I can say that my husbands job did drive this decision. The employer will potentially allow me to relocate in a variety of places around the world should the husbands job take us that direction. This I think is something that many people in my situation struggle with. Especially if they have an established career. The question I have struggled with for a long time is, whose career is more important, mine or his? In a perfect world, this wouldn't even be a question, but being in the airline industry, and with me being in an industry that requires me to acquire specific licenses in each state I would choose to live/practice, it is a nightmare. Do we follow the airline job, and I give up career and just follow him from place to place, never really establishing a position for myself? Do we stay in one place and commute which means even more time apart? What happens if he loses his job and we are stuck with my low paying one because I haven't established myself? I'm a pretty independent gal and establishing my own identity is important. I mean, I spent LOTS of money learning how to follow my chosen career, so some emotional/personal investment should be made, right? I like what I do (most days) and it gives me something to do during the times he is away. So I guess you could say that this is a really positive step for me and a very important step for us. After all change is good, and a happy wife means a happy life.